i know my husband cheated but he won't admit it

PLEASE!!! When hes with me, hes distant. To be honest I cheat and always will. Your gut is telling you something, and you need to listen to it. When I found out he had driven with her in the car the other day, I got angry and lashed out at him, he then said he doesnt want this and wants a divorce!!! Biology makes men want to have as many kids as possible, so they cheat withas many female partners as possible. I was puzzled by his un-interest in saving our marriage and relationship. can anyone tell me if my husband is cheating or am i having the wrong feelings. One emotional affair with a family friend whos like a sister and one very questionable message. I went back. I dont see us ever getting merried, because hes never there for me, or our son. I am so confused and dont know what to do. My world was shattered. Well needless to say last year the day after my daughters one year birthday party I found out that this woman was pregnant by my boyfriend. He started to block his phone with pin codes to protect the communication between him and her, he would lie to me about her all the time. Its natural for you to want to scream and break things, after all, this is one of the worst breaches of trust that can ever happen to you. Don't get drawn into doing stuff you're not comfortable with. I happened to find out recently that someone I know knows her and her history and said that my husband really wasnt doing anything wrong and also that there is no way this woman is interested in him. Instead, confide in a close family member or friend, as they will be able to help advise you on what you should do in the future. That lady is a student and didnt want to break up untill she finishes her exams. Research from the University of Guelph shows that people with sexual performance anxiety are more likely to cheat on their partners. I didnt trust him he left that work place and I told him if he didnt get me the girls number then I would call his ex boss and disclose everything to him. I hate to say this, but physical cheating (sex) isnt the only way a husband may betray his wife. You deserve better than settling for less. Your 5 ways to tell if a man is cheating are the stupidest things I have ever seen. Respectfully, Been There. (He doesnt know I check his Google history search box from his iPhone from time to time.) I dont believe this crap for a second and I prayed on it. Remember, actions speak louder than words (assuming he is actually saying some nice things too) no matter what he might say, he does not want to be with you. I spent a week home with my husband and things seemed good. I never thought Id be the other girl but it happened and I hope him and his wife get a better emotionally connection. I was in such a state about Mom, that clearly I wasnt thinking but did email her and assumed by hearing from me and knowing my mother was dying , this woman woukd have the decency to respect boundaries. Her being a huge narcissist. Just because he couldnt stay faithful in your marriage doesnt mean it has anything to do with you. We ended up meeting a month or so later and just sat in my car at this faraway park, talking for hours and hours. Im expecting some money to come in from my previous employer, a nice severance package. His problem is he is constantly suspicious of me and waiting for me to pay him back even though I have assured him I wont. I come from a difference race. 2 months ago I written a letter to him, which he had kept hoping to try to press charges on me with it instead it back fires. Two of the most important things to remember are that it takes a long time to forgive your husband for cheating, and forgiveness is a daily effort. Now that is small compared to what i have had to deal with in the last 2 years. Betrayal is such a painful and difficult experience that extends far beyond the physical act. If he disrespects you, that is his bad and in him. And yet I did see. If you meet a man who is too charming and too good to be true, thats a BIG red flag!!! only when he uses his phone she responds. Not all women have girlfriends to talk to. After six moths of dating I had only eyes for him. And go about this in a mature manner and i need help. Right? The wired thing about the time he called he called me 23 minutes early before his lunch break. When I ask him if he loves me,he says yes. Whats this really? Most but not all! something that i really do not understand?! At least if you want something exclusive with this man. What a douche! I asked him and of course he lied. It just hurts to know that someone you would anything for thinks you arent enough. Some software programs let you know all about hidden actions that your husband does online. kf The reality is God want you to confront a cheating husband in a way that is biblical. I had a brief infidelity and lied to save face. Hey anonymous, my friend is going through the same kinda thing. He said when he woke up he asked her and she said they did but didnt believe. Most of the questions seem to be coming from women who are in marriages or long term committed relationshipswhat do you think about handling cheating in new relationships? It is called STENGTH and unfortunately muscles dont have anything to do with it. Why are you asking me? At that point she will give you the reasons for her suspicions. Now my husband has gotten angry, mad in our conversations. I have read some texts he does not tell women that he is married. Im 32 weeks pregnant and from the beginning my boyfriend has cheated on me. They usually invited themselves, she would always ask when can we go out on the boat. He seemed really nervous about it. I dont think its stupid to fall in love with a man, trust him, and believe that your marriage is healthy and happy. I ask him what they talk about he said nothing nothing turned out to be numerous phone calls when i was a t work and sleep. So, I decided to write a letter, why I feel the way I do. I wasnt even thinking straight due to so much loss! When I confronted him he told me you are going to believe her instead of me? This means that your husbands friends have a very real, direct effect on your marriage. I talked to his mom about it to and she claims i am jelouse of her. As much as we woukd like to give back what we got, some of us just cant . When I call that office I only speak to him and would never play such games. Is it unfortunate? They won't take responsibility for their actions because it makes them feel as though they are out of control and vulnerable. I was having a miscarriage at that time and I wasnt aware of it. long story. I didnt. When i got back i felt something was wrong, like he had been cheating. It was almost like he was protecting her or their memory. Hmmm , i find bs. Were barely past our first wedding anniversary. He wants me to leave because he doesnt support me anymore and he doesnt want to live with me anymore. We havent been able to reconnect emotionally very well in the past 3 years. anyway this was a year ago, but now recent months we have had so much quarrels and argues and that has made him to be even more passive when it comes to our relationship. I even overheard him talk to his friend about: when the last time youve seen (them)? And, my husband called out the age the child was. He was there for 2 weeks and in that time I had recieved a facebook message from a girl Id never met before. I confronted him about that, he was angry and he told me me to stop looking at his phone. Again Im 8 months pregnant he claims to be sorry. to women he knows casually, just as friends I have pages and pages of correspondence through the years with various women, that I think is just inappropriate (lets meet for a day at the beach etc.) When he seems to be enjoying himself the most, ask him whether or not he's cheated on you. About a year before he left to go out of state for work, we all got Facebook pages. He would get overly mad when I bought her up. Due to financial problems, him and I were living with his parents the last few years and in early October of this year, I moved out. I havent withdrawn the papers yet, but I dont want a divorce. I refused to abort and he would kick me on my stomach during pregnancy. If I could help you, what would you like me to do? Its his king Baby having a self-pitious tantrum.til he gets his way again. Look at how his surrounding and your surrounding is treating you when you are with him. He did not set up the account for a friend- it is for him. He has the neighbors involved helping hide her. I mean he has telling me stories that they went out with marines, or did that or third, but nothing about meeting or becoming friends with a female. Well I didnt like that one bit mostly because I knew she was his ex and I just never felt comfortable with it, and no matter what I said or did he would still talk and text her, I told him that I felt like he was disrespecting me which he would shrug at. I loved my husband with my whole heart. Oh theres more way more. He said it was more frequent in the beginning then got less frequent as the weeks went on. Lately, hes late Monday, Tuesday, and Thursday and do not call if he is. He says he loves me, needs me, wants me but things just arent working. So needless to say I took him back but this time set rules for myself. If you had to give one up completely and forever, which would it be? He admitted to me that he asked her out on a date, but she refused to call it a date, so it was merely just friends. Ive gone through fertility treatments and that is how Ive been able to get pregnant. He owns his own business and ends his day at the same place before coming everyday (another womans business). I hope he burns in hell. We both are foreigners and it complicates things for our baby. If youre afraid hel lie to you about it.. you can catch him in the act. Okay 2010 i was still dealing with the first affair. I dont understand. I found the texts and my world collapsed! This is a treatable disease but I cant chance him cheating again and catching something that is not I have to agree with you there. wouldnt deny it wouldnt admit it. He ran off with his best friends ex wife to Virginia in 2019 and would not answer his phone. I have more of a life than the time to be following someone that doesnt want to be with me! You can be free, you can be healthy, you can learn to love again if you so choose. It seems like he texting someone n messages deleted. He makes me feel unappreciated disrespected and worth nothing to him. I try my best to forgive this man so when he gets better, when go to a food store and guess what, there girl is there he quikly goes up to her and bumps into her while Im standing there and they both laugh I turn and walk out to leave him there didnt have my cars keys.He comes out asking me what was wrong and when I tell him he calls me a lie. We started dating other people for about 2 years. The key to solving is understanding men on a much deeper emotional level. Lol. Dont be dispairing.we pick the familair rubbish that our parents lived.its like a comfy pair of old slippers!! You may not need to embark on couples therapy but maybe you and your husband need a little guidance on communication, trust, boundaries, and expectations. And im also wondering if his lack of being able to get fully erect with me is also a sign of infidelity. Because hes cheating. Blah blah blah. She relpied by saying she didnt think he could have friends that were girls. So how odd is that. We saw each other once or twice a week (I now live across the state of CT so we cant see each other too much more). Neither people may not be exactly pious, so how would it be to sit down and discuss how it hurts? I pray for wisdom, peace, hope, healing, and courage. I thoughT i did everything slow like your supposed to in the beginning. HerNorm is a community-supported website. Take courage. Received blow jobs from strangers at truck stops. Spaces fill up quickly for this course. I have been dating someone for 7 months. I confronted him that morning, he was still in bed. Work at it because there are children involved but dont put up with him if he is blatantly sh**ting on u and u cant work it out as that wont help ur kids but make them as tense and upset as u instead, good luck xxx, I dont normally comment in internet sites but sweetie you dimply have to leave him right away, itll be hard at first because you evidently love him but I promise itll get easier. You must be honest. I cook,clean, work, go to school, and dont go out often so i can get my future together. The only person you have any control over is you. You always have known that in some form or another, he cheated but you stayed. May you find strength and courage and may you realize that the healthiest choices are sometimes the hardest ones. I guess maybe that shows youre not alone your husband isnt the only one who could be lying about cheating. When questioned he gets defensive ( although I am persistent so I may be the cause of this) tells me I am imagining things.His family was there and I feel awkward as subtle hints have emerged. I'm surprised you still kept him after finding out about his affair in the beginning of your marriage. Should I comfront him about it or should I dismised as a guy thing? I confronted him but he says that the lady asked him to text that so that she could make his boyfriend jealous, I dont believe this at all, on top of that he has been sex texting with his ex girlfriend telling her how he love her p***y and would like to cum in actually he asked her if she can preserve herself for him until she come back, I feel devastated, he does not admit to it, all he says I know you dont believe me but that the truth. Finally I found all my strength and went away for a while. I was invisible there. He knows, its the only way I will stay. Perhaps your spouse chose to save a couple of the steamy ones for later playback. Such a smart response. She KNEW he was deleting text. Thats a fact. I have been cheating on my husband for 3 years. M sorry but, I dont spy on anybody so I dont think so! I feel I am going crazyAny advise. ANYONE PLZ.!!!!!!!!!!!! no. I always felt that my husband cheated n me, i ask him once if he have an affair with an0ther woman he said no but the housemaid of my uncle saw them. Plz help. Then he still lied, about not seeing her. My gut feeling has never lied or been un true in the past I believe in the 15 years there has been at least 5 please help Im very desperate to have closer Ive never stayed with a cheater but hes slick I could never catch him. As you type a single letter, any searches that begins with that letter will show up along with the date. About 3 months ago(2015) on a Thursday morning at 7:50am in the morning my husbands cell phone rang while we were being intimate. Now, my husband is trying to secure a job position for her in the same company where he works, probably because he wants to see her more often. I just need to know 100% the truth before I walk away i need clousure. As someone who was cheated on, I know all too well the pain, humiliation, and, at least in my case, the feelings of worthlessness that came with it. I have to have clothes that are within my companys dress code. The only time he ever talks to me to holds me is when he wants sex..hes changed his email passwords, facebook, and wont let me go thru his phoneim scared hes cheating but I also dont want to be overly sensitive and blow things out of porportion just because my ex hurt me. Asked him to give her up, he would not. My depressive thinking is letting me down when I feel cornered. i wanted to know what someone else thinks of this situation because its driving me crazy. Like trash, put her on a pedestal. I to prayed That The Lord would reveal to me what I needed to know! Sometimes I will see messages from girls he works with and he talks about them more than he ever did before we moved here. There were just too many loose ends that were unexplainable or the excuses just didnt really make any sense. His ex gf posted pics of my bf and her on facebook holding each other. Are You Jealous When Your Boyfriend Talks to His Ex? Weve talked about divorce in the past because of other problems but he always says he wants to keep trying although he never takes any actions. I screamed at him why? It was a friend, who also disliked the girl. But after 3 months I gave him another chance and because of some other personal things his mom asked me to live with them because I had no where else to go. my husband is not showing interest on me. How do I truly find out whats really going on with him and how he feels about me or is he already telling me? Please dont. Oh my gosh, I was so hurt, I felt inadequate, and insecure. If their belly button faces the door or exit, its because subconsciously they want to leave or escape. The bottom line is that I think hes lying about cheating, and I think it has to do with not having conflict in your marriage. Sometimes we get sick along with our sick partners and its hard to see the truth. He says he wants nothing more than me now. I must tell you, if want any chance at a happy life DUMP THAT MAN! if you would like to get some more information about how to deal with these kind of situation just click on my nickname in the title of the comment. About a month after we moved in things started getting weird, he would rarely have sex with me, not cuddle, etc. If your husband really is cheating on you and lying about it, it is better to leave him. He told me he didnt tell her anything but I know he did. I found texts from a local number talking about hooking up. U dont mention u have any children. 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